I’ve not written much in the past month and half or so for no reason other than I’ve been a busy bee. Between holiday travel, visiting friends, school, work, and freelancing for multiple websites, I’ve hardly had a second to tend to Three Times Per Day.
Last year brought a flurry of trial and error. I took up boxing, which was a success. I joined two wine clubs, which was also a success. I tried to expand the nature of Three Times Per Day, which was an utter failure…should have listened to my Marketing Strategy professor about keeping ones brand clean and crisp. Simultaneously, PIF made the leap to a new living situation and a new job, which both turned out to be decisions more wonderful than we even imagined, and I got to see him get his mojo back.
The year also brought a lot of self-reflection and painful truths. The election forced me to think about my values and perception of feminism more deeply than I had since studying Simone de Beauvoir and Marx in college. Orientation for business school highlighted my strengths and weaknesses as a leader and also revealed the qualities of myself I both like and strongly dislike, some of which I didn’t even realize were habits or aspects of my personality.
Today is not January 1st, but it is an historic day of a new beginnings. I originally began this post as a way to announce my new blog, Total Bad Nass. TBN will be a more holistic blog that focuses on the things I find important and that I think will resonate with those in similar situations: young professionals, working women, recent graduates — all those people trying to figure out what makes them them and how they can live their best life.
It also happens to be the first day of the presidency of a man I did not vote for and whose rhetoric was filled with lies and hate speech and sexism. The first day of the presidency of a man who divides the country far more than he unifies it, from as macro a level as between genders to as micro a level as the dinner table.
However, we must remember: it is not the first day that women, minorities, immigrants, LGBTQ peoples, and their allies are speaking up against those who not only don’t have their best interest at heart, but are fighting actively against it. It is not the first day that people are focusing upon the commonalities between people rather than on differences. Regardless of who you voted for, frankly, it is your responsibility to listen, maintain a critical, yet open ear, and remember that at the end of the day, we aren’t just talking about beliefs, race, religion, sexual preference, or money, but about people. People are at the center of all this. And people fuck up. Like, all the time. We are flawed, self-serving, and slaves to the world around us. So as we go forward, I encourage you to keep the old adage “you lure more bees with honey than with vinegar” in mind. Focus on changing the things you don’t like in the world rather than using all your energy to hate those things. Avoid becoming a passive observer and contributing to the division. Share your world-view and listen to that of those who are different from you. None of this behavior is easy, but the future won’t be either if we don’t act now.
And then maybe when you need a break from kicking ass and being awesome, you’ll read my new blog.